Emotions are an integral part of our life that influences our state of mind, our feelings and even our health. That is why it is very important to learn how to cope with your emotions from the very childhood.Our life cannot exist without different sorts of stress: disappointment, anxiety, conflicts, etc. Every minute and even second we experience some emotions. But sometimes it is difficult to understand the nature of these emotions even for an adult, not to mention children. And this is the reason why you should teach your child to deal with their emotions, and not to conceal them, but to be “in good relations” with them. Emotional intelligence (or Emotional quotient) is the term that somehow summarizes all these things. It can be described as an ability to understand your emotions, feelings and anxieties and emotions, feelings and anxieties of your opponent for the effective and harmonic communication.
Reveal your emotionsUsually children perceive their parents as a standard of conduct; they try to follow their behavior and adopt their attitude to life. So, if parents cannot cope with their emotions it is not a surprise that their child also cannot do it. In these situations psychologists recommend trying to understand your emotions first. Very often adults restrain their emotions and do not reveal them until they have to and in a very unpleasant manner. You should talk about your emotions at least with your family for them to understand you better and for you to feel better, because it has been proved that accumulation of bad emotions leads to health problems. Your child will see that you speak with them of your feelings, either good or bad, and they will copy you and tell about their emotions too.
Discuss it with your childTo establish good emotional intelligence of your child psychologists advice to discuss emotions of some characters from a book or a cartoon with them. It can be considered as an exercise that helps your child to understand emotions of other people and, thus, to understand their own emotions.
Let your child experience all emotionsAll the parents try to do everything to make their children happy, but sometimes they are so passionate about the process that they let their child experience only positive emotions. Avoiding negative emotions leads to incapability to realize them and in most cases they cannot manage to cope with this type of emotions. Parents have to accept all the emotions of their child and do not keep them away from negative emotions. If your child broke a toy and started to cry because of that, you do not have to rush to a shop to buy an identical one. You have to let your child be sad. You child can realize any emotion mainly through experiencing it.
Society is important for your childFrom the early childhood your child should learn to communicate with other people, because communication with other children helps the development of feelings and emotions. Contacting with peers, the child learns to identify the mood of the other people and their attitude to them and, also, to recognize the emotions caused by different situations. Society also helps your child to realize the limits that they are not allowed to violate. For example, only society may help your child to understand that they cannot scream in the theatre.
It is important to talk with your child about events, impressions and especially about your love to them. Showing your love to your children makes them closer to you. And children in their turn feeling your love will not hide their emotions and grow up psychologically healthy and with high level of emotional intelligence.
Why We Need to Teach Kids Emotional Intelligence – Psychology Today
5 Steps To Nurture Emotional Intelligence in Your Child – Aha! Parenting.com
How to Build Emotional Intelligence in Your Child – Huffpost
10 ways to improve emotional intelligence in children – HELLO!